The Kindness Page - Gemma

Spreading the Good Energy of Positivity

Please send me stories of Kindness to add to this page.

IMG_0965_2 Sueshe Bella Nastasi – December 5, 2000 – May 27, 2015 – Gone but will never be forgotten.

Do unto others as you would have them unto you.
Bible Gateway passage: Luke 6:31 – New International Version. (n.d.). Retrieved from https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=luke 6:31&version=NIV.

You would think it would be automatic for people to treat you as they would want to be treated, but it is not a given. Everyone can show kindness every day without much effort. Some examples of kindness include: giving genuine compliments, smiling, saying hello or good bye to someone, calling or texting someone who is suffering, refusing to participate in gossip, forgiving someone, helping someone in need, offering a hug, paying attention to someone when you are not interested in what they are saying, or offering to do or not do something. Many of the things I listed take little effort and mean so much to others. If you want to increase your happiness, you will have to incorporate some gestures of kindness to others as well as yourself.
Random acts of kindness will take more effort but will also bring about more happiness to yourself. Some examples of random acts of kindness would be paying for something for a stranger or family or a friend, letting someone go in front of you in line or when driving, picking up litter, or giving a compliment. Some other types of kindness require donating time but give you back so much joy. It is the gift that gives to others but also gives to you. Volunteer work is so beneficial to all parties. Visiting someone who is lonely or helping at a homeless shelter are examples of some types of volunteering.
Kindness has many wellness benefits. Some of the benefits of kindness include: releasing the feel-good hormones, easing your anxiety, increasing longevity, and reducing stress, which helps to prevent illness. It also helps you to focus on gratitude.
Think about improving the energy in the universe by practicing kindness to others. Start off by small acts, and create a kindness plan to put in your life daily. An example would be to give someone a compliment or smile at someone. Kindness is an important ingredient in a happy life.

How can you add more kindnss to yourself and others?

Gemma

After returning from a trip, I was immediately faced with having to put my dog, Sueshe, to sleep. Sueshe was 14 1/2 years old and was having a series of seizures. She was in pain. The whole process was very difficult for me. My friends were supportive and sympathetic and offered to go with me to the vet. The day that I said goodbye to my loyal companion and friend, I went to a meditation class. After the meditation we were asked to share our experience. I did not have a great meditation that night but i felt I was in control of my emotions. When it was my turn to speak, I realized I was not. I was very emotional when I told them of my loss. I did not know most of the people but they all gathered around me to give hugs and words of support. I am grateful for all the kindness that was shown to me in a time of great sorrow. I am using the reframing tool from positive psychology when I think of Sueshe. I focus on the giant hug that wrapped around me during my time of saddness. Thank you!

Amanda

feeling like I need to share this: so this morning, I had an appointment with a therapist, in which I spoke about relationships, anxiety…(“my buttons”). It was pouring rain when I left the building and I spotted a man on crutches walking a few feet in front of me. He was SOAKED along with all of the belongings that he had in his backpack because he did not have an extra hand to hold an umbrella. I walked up beside him and asked him if he wanted my umbrella, he laughed and said he had no hands! I told him I was trying to ask if he’d like me to walk beside him and hold the umbrella for him. The response I received from him was enough to bring me to tears. Over the course of our 4 block walk, I learned that he needed a hip replacement and has been unable to work because of it for over a year, therefore he is living in a shelter. Everyday, he takes the train uptown to the clinic at the Met hospital, which he can barely afford anymore. When he thanked me and said he has never had someone be so kind to him without expecting something in return, I simply said “I do want something in return! I want you to, even in the simplest way, do something kind for someone else today.” He liked that. We laughed and then parted ways. I am overwhelmingly touched. We all have our problems, but thirty minutes prior to this happened I thought my “issues” were unbeatable- I pitted myself. But this act of kindness did something equally as helpful for me, it humbled me.